Comments on: My Boyfriend And I Are Going To Have A Baby Soon, But He Keeps On Wanting To Buy Things For His Family?

By: Baby boy due Nov 19!

Baby boy due Nov 19! — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 17:02:33 +0000

Although he cares about his family, he needs to realize and plan for the future. You need to tell him, whether it upsets him or not. He needs to realize that the money spent on an i pod can pay for a car seat, stroller, and crib. Or just think of how many diapers that will cover?
Sometimes people do not like to hear the truth, but they still need to hear it.

By: Munchkin

Munchkin — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 13:12:57 +0000

maybe suggest something else for her? like some lotion and clothes? Tell him how you feel—youre worried that the ipod is a big waste of money when your babys needs getting formula etc are much more important than if she gets an ipod or not.
I agree it’s kind of like putting his other family first—when you and the baby are his family now. he needs to worry about his son getting diapers and formula, not hsi niece having the latest gadgets. That’s like putting her before his own son when thats just his niece. I love my niece but I would never buy her something expensive if I cant get it for my owndaughter first. Thats what her parents are there for, not me.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 07:51:16 +0000

You are going to have to talk to him about it. Go to him with a list of expenses for the baby. Go on line and right write down the cost for each thing the baby needs and present it to him. He is going to have to make sure these things are purchased. And if you can’t talk to him about this you are in big trouble for the future.

By: mommy to a princess

mommy to a princess — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 06:45:51 +0000

i understand he loves his niece but he doesn’t have to ‘buy’ her. You know what you should suggest. Him taking her out for a great lunch, just her and himself. And then maybe the zoo or something, something simple that wont cost a fortune and will give him an opportunity to spend time with her.

By: Anonymous

Anonymous — Sun, 01 Nov 2009 00:44:12 +0000

What the hell is he thinking?

By: ♥♥♥♥JeSuS Is PrO-LiFe♥♥♥♥

♥♥♥♥JeSuS Is PrO-LiFe♥♥♥♥ — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 23:31:38 +0000

You should talk nicely to your BF and say we have financial problems. I cant afford to get an i pod

By: Emily

Emily — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 18:29:03 +0000

You have to confront him, whether it makes him upset or not. For your child’s sake, confront him.

By: Ashley

Ashley — Sat, 31 Oct 2009 15:14:37 +0000

I get what you are saying completely. I am a stay at home mom. When we first had our child and before we had our child I don’t think my husband got how expensive everything was going to be. He was still spending money like we had a lot to blow. If I was you since you don’t want to talk confront him about it, write him a letter. Tell him why you are concerned. Let him know you didn’t want to say anything because you didn’t want to make him upset, but you guys really need to save up. Let him know that you would love to give everyone Ipods, but right now you just can’t afford it. Maybe you could suggest instead of a regular Ipod he could get her an Ipod nano which is half the price, or a shuffle which is only $70. Since you guys are having a baby together, and are in a relationship finances should be an open topic, since it is something that will not just affect you and him but also your baby. If he thought you were spending too much money I am sure he would tell you about it. Just remember you have the right to bring this up with him, just go about it in a loving and concerned way, not in a mean way. I hope I could help you with your question.