Cheating Husband…or Contented One?
I never had sex with my husband before we were married, and a month after we were married I fell pregnant. I am 5 months along now, in a very high risk pregnancy, I am on strict bed rest and for safety reasons my doctor said we shouldn’t have intercourse the entire pregnancy,we wanted children but not so soon and we were using protection when I conceived. I am worried, about my husband, I feel like he didn’t sign on for this, and maybe he will look elsewhere, for sex, I hear all the time about men cheating. He says he loves me and wants me and our baby to be safe and if that means no sex for 9 months then he’s OK with it. At first we tried other ways, but I feel so fat and gross and icky, I just don’t feel sexy. I know you don’t know my husband, he’s a good man and I love him and he loves me, but even good men stray sometimes. What do you think are the chances that he may cheat on me out of sexual frustration?
I know this is a long question, I’ve tried to keep it concise.
Thank you and Happy Holidays
50/50 chance he will watch porn with him and help him out
I think you have read too many articles. If he has not shown you any reason that he will be looking elsewhere, he wont. I don’t know how long you were dating and engaged, but he did not look for sex with someone else then and he is not going to now. With you on bed rest and knowing that he will soon be a father will occupy thoughts.
Believe in and trust Your husband. He loves YOU and the baby. This is part of “In sickness and in health” “For better or for worse”.
Relax….and be happy with your husband.
Babies are a Blessing. And there is NO other feeling in this world like bringing life into it, and raising loving, responsible children. You will feel no greater satisfaction!
Well if he says he loves you and wants you and baby to be safe, trust him and believe him. If there are no obvious signs of cheating, don’t think he is cheating on you. There are a few good, faithful men left in this world. And sounds like you have nothing to worry about.
Your high risk you don’t need to think about that. I’m sure he isn’t cheating on you. And he maybe sexually frustrated but that doesn’t mean he is going to cheat on you. All you need to do is think about is you and your baby.
Good Luck…. And congrats!!
Your feelings have more to do with you than him. If I were in the same position, I wouldn’t cheat on my wife.
Straying has to do with much deeper issues than the one you’re dealing with. If he does cheat on you, he doesn’t deserve you to begin with.
Good luck with your pregnancy.
Sounds to me like you have a good caring man. Stop worrying so much and dont worry about what you look like right now. You may not feel sexy but I bet he still thinks you look beautiful and he loves you. Keep doing the “other” things you are doing and you will be fine.
When your husband married you, he took vows and so did you. You need to trust that he loves you and will be faithful to you. This should be a joyous time of you and him celebrating the baby you made together – relax and think good thoughts. All will be well!
If he is a good husband he will not cheat on you because of your health reasons or any other reasons. That was the part where you say: ” In sickness and in health.” in your wedding vows.
He won’t cheat on you if he loves you. He must be using his hands till you are back in action. Lend him a ‘hand’ if you feel up to it. You can also do oral or back door to keep him content.
Not all men cheat. If your man held out until after you were married for sex then he is a man of moral fortitude and I dont think you have a thing to worry about.
If he is a good man, the chances are very low. He’s probably more worried about you than you imagine. Only a rat would cheat on a pregnant wife and it sounds like you have a decent man.
Drop the insecurities about your weight. If he is letting you touch him in this state, he loves you. This love should overrule your insecurity.
If he cheated on you because you could not have sex due to the possible effects on his unborn child and wife he is an a@# that you don’t need anyway!
I think the best thing you can do is to share this with your husband. You have to communicate everything with him that is a worry or a concern to you, that is how you keep a marriage strong and how a marriage grows to be stronger. He will appreciate you and respect you if you just sit him down and talk to him. This is key to a healthy marriage.
Walk over your discomfort and love him the best you can. He still needs affection and touch. You already know it’s hard for him so don’t make it worse by starting to be conscious about your body. You’ll have plenty of time to do that when you pass 40.
So no, he will not cheat…and most of all don’t assume he might cause you will hurt him.
Get control over your insecurities, they’re worse for him than not being able to be intimate for 9 months.
I think you need to stop worrying about something that has not happened and probably will not happen
You have to many other issues to focus on.
He has given you no indication, and is probably committed to you and the baby. Give him that chance.
… use your hands on him…. he will love it
nine months, actually almost 11 with the wait period after, isn’t that long. how long were you dating before you got married? if it was longer than 11 months he shouldn’t have too much trouble waiting.